Don’t Worry About What Other People Think
Your marriage is just that: yours. You have the right to do with it what you will, it’s your masterpiece. We all spend so much time worrying about what other people think, but you know what other people are thinking about? They’re worried about what you think of them! Don’t spend too much energy trying to conform to some
(2)- Love is Not About How You Feel
It’s about how you make your spouse feel. We have a natural tendency to always be focused on ourselves, but when you live for someone else, beautiful things happen.
(3) – Create the Helpful Habits
Habits make for poor masters, but make for excellent slaves.
(4)- Love is Commitment
When we’re young, we think of love as that overwhelming emotion that sweeps us up and makes us do silly things. While this is a wonderful aspect of love, we don’t live the majority of ours lives young! This is nothing to worry about, just the natural order of things. When you two exchanged vows, you promised to be there for each other. The word “commitment” gets thrown around a lot, so maybe it’s time to re-examine your commitment. When you do something for your spouse, that’s commitment (which is love). When you sacrifice something
(5)- Take a Look at Your Finances -Early and Often
You many have heard that arguments over money are the numero uno reason for divorce. You heard right! Most people don’t have a clue how to manage their money. And why should they? We grow up without any financial training whatsoever, and discussing money publically is taboo. We are bombarded by literally thousands of advertising messages every single day, and we live in a culture that absolutely worships conspicuous consumption.
Furthermore, unless we’re lucky enough to be guided by someone who cares (not someone earning a commission off of our financial decisions), we’re rudderless ships at best.
So what happens to a ship with no direction? It’s cast about any which way the wind blows. Turns out the “wind” in our financial lives is the laser-focused messages of marketers everywhere. If you don’t know how to feel or what to buy at any given moment, there are thousands of well crafted messages vying for your attention and dying to tell you what to do.
The result of this lack of direction is that you’re working your tail off to make money to throw away to buy things you don’t need to impress people you don’t care about. Vicious cycle, read that again and make sure that isn’t you. If it is, get crackin’ on a solution today. It will literally be one of the best things you’ll ever do for your marriage. This is easily the most important of the successful marriage tips on this list.
Take a look at your household finances as early as possible in your marriage. I highly recommend reading anything by Dave Ramsey and taking a class of his if possible. You have the power to control what may be one of the most important areas of your marriage, take control as soon as possible and the peace you will feel is indescribable.
(6)- Play to Your Strengths
Hopefully by this point is your life you’re not still wasting a ton of energy trying to improve your weakest talents. You’ve always gravitated naturally to certain areas of interest and expertise. Your spouse has also always naturally done this. Set some time aside, alone or as a couple, to look at your strengths.
Are you banging your head against a wall working on something that your spouse is better at? If so, let them handle it or help you out. There may be things that you take joy in that drive your spouse crazy, make sure you handle those things for each other.
By playing to your strengths,
(7)- Stay in the Moment
“We can’t wait to get married, we are so in love!”
“We can’t wait to move into that house, we are really going places!”
“We can’t wait for the baby, he’s going to be so beautiful!”
Other things to plug in here: I can’t wait for the promotion, new car, bigger house, etc.
These are all things I’ve said in my life, and getting to the next step is always fun. You need to bear in mind, however, that the vast majority of your life is lived day to day. To be happy, you need to be happy with the day to day stuff.
If you’re always spending every moment in anticipation of the next big thing, you’re probably overlooking some beautiful moments happening right now.
Stay in the moment. Once a moment is gone, it is absolutely gone forever.
Your baby will never be so small again, enjoy this phase of their life.
You will never again be as young as you are now, enjoy your youth.
No matter how things are going in your life right now, you will look back on them fondly (or at least gratefully) in ten years.
Stay in the moment always, and you’ll have lived a full life when you come to the end of your journey.
(8) – Contribute Regularly to Your Marriage Account
Don’t worry, I’m done dispensing financial advice here. When I refer to your Marriage Account, I’m talking about that invisible level of goodwill you both feel towards each other. When you buy your wife flowers, you’re making a deposit to the Marriage Account. When you go down on your husband (yep, you read that right), you’re making a deposit into the Marriage Account.
There will inevitably come times when unexpected withdraws are necessary (broken promises, mistakes, etc), and having a healthy cushion in the Marriage Account will keep spirits high in your household.
(9) – Write Notes
Who doesn’t appreciate a note telling them how great they are? Would you appreciate this? Yep, you would. Guess what, so would your spouse! What kind of a time investment are we talking about here?
15 seconds.
Here’s a suggestion for the creatively challenged: “Honey, I love you and I love our life together. You’re the best, and you make me happy.”
Not the toughest of these successful marriage tips, but if you haven’t written your spouse a sweet note in the last month, do it today.
(10) – Don’t Air Dirty Laundry
Don Henley had it right: “People love it when you lose, they love dirty laundry.”
I don’t know why humans crave juicy gossip, but the popularity of E News proves we can’t get enough. If you’ve got some internal strife going on in your marriage, don’t make it public by complaining about your partner to groups of people.
Doing this makes you look untrustworthy, and the life of whatever tails you tell may be longer than you know. Share your troubles privately with family or close friends, but don’t invite everyone to a spectacle.
If public invitations to spectacles involving your private matters are your way of getting attention, please examine and rethink your sad little life.
(11) -Celebrate Small Victories
You should celebrate all victories, but I’m mentioning the small victories here because somebody needs to stick up for them. Your life is hard enough without you belittling your accomplishments.
Celebrate all of ‘em, you earned it.
(12) – Laugh
When was the last time you had a good laugh together? Hopefully it was earlier today, but maybe not. Laughing is so good for our immune system, and so great for our relationships. Get some laughter however you need to.
If you’re stuck for ideas, prowl the internet to find some funny videos. I can’t figure out why watching others fall down is so funny, but it always is.
(13) – Talk About Any Purchase Over $300
Ah, I told you I was done with the finance stuff, but I lied.
Add some context – we are all far more blessed than we ever realize. It’s very easy to lose sight of this blessing however, and adding some perspective to your life will highlight for you how Lucky you are.
(14) – Learn Each Others Language’
We tend think others think like we do. “Why would someone do ____?” We often ask ourselves. The answer is that the person that just did _____ has a completely different way of seeing the world than you do.
Even though your spouse and you may be very compatible, complimentary, or both, you still are very different people with a billion different life experiences that shaped your unique character.
Spend some time figuring out what makes each of you tick. Catering to your partner’s unique likes and avoiding their unique dislikes is one of the best successful marriage tips you can implement.
(15) – Plan for Sex
Ugh, talk about making something fun a drag! Seriously, when you were 18 did you ever think you’d be pathetic enough to have to schedule sex? Ok, just kidding. But, as life’s responsibilities add up, sex often seems to fall by the wayside. It may not be anyone’s fault, it just kind of happens.
So, when I talk about planning sex I’m not talking about blocking off an hour in your Outlook or iPhone. Rather, I’m advising that you seize the opportunity when you see it. Do you have a few minutes you can spare here or there? If you do, make sex it a priority! True, you may both be tired, but by purposefully taking sex off the back burner whenever you possibly can, you’ll heat your marriage up. It’s also one of the more fun successful marriage tips in this list.Keep it spicy and very interesting always...............
How to Win a Woman Back Without Looking Like a Fool!!!!
After breakup, many guys will find themselves asking “what in the world can I do to win a woman back?”
They may start reminiscing on all the wrong they did, and finding themselves wishing they could go back in time somehow. Oh, if only things were that easy. Often times, guys will result desperate acts out of a need to numb the pain they are feeling.
There are some solid strategies to win a woman back though, and that’s what I discuss here today.
The first thing you need to do is find an outlet for all this negative energy. If you’re trying to figure out everything and analyze it to death right after breakup, you’re going to be wasting a lot of your time and energy.
So, find something else to put your focus on for a few days or even weeks. Sports, travel, hunting, hanging out with the guys, long-lost hobbies, and many other things can be a great replacement for all those negative feelings.
Once you have a little bit better handle on your emotions, you can pursue your strategy of how to win a woman back. The ironic thing is, by moving away from your ex. You actually set yourself up to be in a position to win her back. This time of self-improvement will give you a great opportunity to reflect on yourself and ultimately become a better person.
This may not be easy at first, but it is an absolutely an essential step. However, once you’ve gotten the necessary perspective that time apart gives you, you’ll be ready to swoop in and win her back.
Now is the time when you can be direct when it comes to getting your ex back. While you still may feel emotionally needy, do not let her see this. You might even play hard to get just a little bit, but don’t overdo it. When a woman sees confidence in the man, it’s very attractive. The secret here is the you don’t actually have to feel confident on the inside, you just have to act that way. You could even go so far as to pretend you were acting in a movie, taking on the role of a very confident lead man. Now, don’t get all theatrical and over do it, this looks stupid. Just remember the have a lot more control over your appearance and confidence than you may think. Act as if you feel bold and others will perceive you that way.
Playing it cool, confident, and a little bit hard to get will test you as a man, but these are the traits you must project. Really try not to over think things, and enjoy yourself! Acting this way will really inspire her to think things through and consider the possibility of getting back together with you.
If you two really are meant to be together, now is the time that will start to become clear to you both. Try not to over analyze things and just go with the flow. If this relationship really is meant to be, things will work out fine.
Alright, don’t just let these by words on a page, man! Get out there and win a woman back, Jack!
Did you just lose your girlfriend or wife? Maybe you’re wondering how to win her back? You’ve come to the right place. Take heart, you can win her back, and in this article we’re going to show you how in just three easy steps.
You may have heard that “nice guys finish last,” and “women are attracted to jerks.” While it’s tempting to believe it, this just isn’t true. What women really want is a guy that is confident.
While this may come off as cocky to some people, underneath it all is really to someone who is showing their confidence in an outward manner. Energy and enthusiasm can be a very good way to display confidence without being arrogant.
I’ll level with you here. Nine times out of 10 there’s no good reason why you can’t get your ex back after a break up. You just have to know a few simple steps in the first one is to determine exactly why you two broke up the first place. Look, you can’t change the past but you sure can learn from your experience and move on. You’ll be a better person for it.
Determine the Cause -The break up or it may have occurred for a variety of reasons: it could’ve been one single tragic event or to have been some behavior that built up over the period of weeks or months. Your job is to find out exactly what caused the break up and make sure that it’s eliminated from this point forward. This sounds easier than it is, but if you can really isolate the problem, and you can begin to address it.
The whole reason you want to get her back is to develop some sort of long-term relationship. If this was just a one night stand you wouldn’t care so much and wouldn’t put in so much effort. make certain that all your effort is not wasted, by planning the next couple of moves you will be much happier in the long run.
Step 2 – Don’t be Needy – You can be nerdy all you want, but you cannot come off as a needy guy here. Remember that confident stuff we talked about before? Well, this is where you need to implement it. Even though you feel like you’re dying inside and you’d do anything in the world to get her back, you can’t wear that emotion on your sleeve! We humans, guys and girls, have this natural tendency to avoid people that are under confident and needy.
If you can portray confidence, you’ve just about won the battle.
Step 3 – Don’t Be Tempted to Use Childish Tactics — I know you’re hurting, and your natural inclination is to do something stupid and hurtful to your ex. Acknowledge this feeling, and then make sure you ignore it. You’re only going to do damage by stooping to a low-level childish acts to hurt your ex. You may actually inspire your ex to completely get rid of you forever by using these tactics, so promise yourself that you won’t and move ahead with confidence.
These three steps will really help your covers your goal. Of course, there are lots of other things you can do, but you will really be surprised at how well these tactics work if you truly take the time to implement them.
If you really pay attention to these three tactics and implement them in your love life, then your question of how to win her back will have a much better answer than before.
Definetely food for thought and food for mental and spiritual intake, remember to always keep "GOD" first and foremost!!!!!!!!!!(THA CHILL ONE)
What Women Want: Listen with Your Heart............
Tips for Men
1. Make and keep eye contact. Few things assure your loved one that you are listening
closely more than making eye contact. Without making it seem like you are staring through her,
lock your eyes on hers and listen to what she has to say.
2. Cease all other activity. When your loved one wants to talk to you—when she has
something very important to talk to you about and needs your undivided attention—make sure
you can do it in an atmosphere free of other activity.
3. Let your loved one know you are being attentive. In addition to keeping eye contact,
let her know that you are listening closely and attentively by acknowledging what she’s saying
through head nods and other signs of attentiveness.
4. Speak occasional words of agreement or understanding. While you listen to your loved
one, it is good to interject words that communicate that you understand how that person feels.
Simple statements such as, “I can see how you would feel that way,” or “I would feel the same
way myself” can do much to communicate that you are listening with you heart.
5. Ignore all interruptions. Sometimes a man and his loved one need to get to a place where
there is no chance they will be interrupted so they can jus talk. When you take the time to listen
with your heart, try to do it where you won’t be interrupted.
How women say men can become experts at listening with their hearts:
▪ “Solve problems with me, not for me.”
▪ “Just listen. Give me a chance to voice my inner thoughts and feelings.”
▪ “Listen without offering unsolicited advice or blame.”
▪ “Teach me your problem solving skills.”
▪ “If you don’t understand what I’m saying, ask me questions.”
▪ “Offer feedback that says you understand what I’m telling you.”
▪ “Be compassionate as you listen.”
▪ “Resist laughing or mocking me in what I have to say.”
▪ “Offer me advice with humility.”
▪ “Use facial expressions and body language so that I know you’re really hearing me.”
Good communication is said to be a lifeline to the health of a good marriage. It’s pretty obvious to all who are wise, that there are good ways we can communicate with each other in word and deed, and harmful ways.
To help you to better discern the good from the harmful, you will find below, scripture verses dealing with communication. The following verses come from the New International Version of the Bible unless noted otherwise:
• Do not be quick with your mouth, do not be hasty in your heart to utter anything before God. God is in heaven and you are on earth, so let your words be few (Ecclesiastes 5:2).
• If anyone considers himself religious and yet does not keep a tight rein on his tongue, he deceives himself and his religion is worthless (James 1:26).
• The tongue of the wise commends knowledge, but the mouth of the fool gushes folly (Proverbs 15:2).
• The heart of the righteous weighs its answers, but the mouth of the wicked gushes evil (Proverbs 15:28).
• But I tell you that men will have to give account on the day of judgment for every careless word they have spoken. For by your words you will be acquitted, and by your words you will be condemned (Matthew 12:37).
• A wise man’s heart guides his mouth, and his lips promote instruction (Proverbs 16:23).
• The lips of the righteous know what is fitting, but the mouth of the wicked only what is perverse (Proverbs 10:29).
• A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger (Proverbs 15:1).
• Reckless words pierce like a sword, but the tongue of the wise brings healing (Proverbs 12:18).
• A wise man fears the Lord and shuns evil, but a fool is hotheaded and reckless. A quick-tempered man does foolish things, and a crafty man is hated (Proverbs 14:16-17).
• A patient man has great understanding, but a quick-tempered man displays folly (Proverbs 14:29).
• An angry man stirs up dissension, and a hot-tempered one commits many sins (Proverbs 29:22).
• Do not associate with a man given to anger; or go with a hot-tempered man, lest you learn his ways, and find a snare for yourself (Proverbs 22:24-25).
• A man of knowledge uses words with restraint, and a man of understanding is even-tempered (Proverbs 17:27).
• Do you see a man who speaks in haste? There is more hope for a fool than for him (Proverbs 29:20).
• Do not answer a fool according to his folly, or you will be like him yourself. Answer a fool according to his folly, or he will be wise in his own eyes (Proverbs 26:4-5).
• A fool gives full vent to his anger, but a wise man keeps himself under control (Proverbs 29:11).
• A fool’s mouth is his undoing, and his lips are a snare to his soul (Proverbs 18:7).
• A fool finds no pleasure in understanding but delights in airing his own opinions (Proverbs 18:2).
• Even a fool is thought wise if he keeps silent, and discerning if he holds his tongue (Proverbs 17:28).
• The quiet words of the wise are more to be heeded than the shouts of a ruler of fools (Ecclesiastes 9:17).
• Instead, speaking the truth in love, we will in all things grow up into him who is that Head, that is, Christ (Ephesians 4:15).
• The wise in heart accept commands, but a chattering fool comes to ruin (Proverbs 10:8).
• Avoid godless chatter, because those who indulge in it will become more and more ungodly (2 Timothy 2:16).
• When words are many, sin is not absent, but he who holds his tongue is wise (Proverbs 10:19).
• A prudent man keeps his knowledge to himself, but the heart of fools blurts out folly (Proverbs 12:23).
• Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen (Ephesians 4:29).
• Pleasant words are a honey comb, sweet to the soul and healing to the bones (Proverbs 16:24).
• A word aptly spoken is like apples of gold in settings of silver (Proverbs 25:11).
• The tongue of the righteous is choice silver, but the heart of the wicked is of little value (Proverbs 10:20.)
• The tongue of the righteous nourish many, but fools die for lack of judgment (Proverbs 10:21).
• The tongue that brings healing is a tree of life, but a deceitful tongue crushes the spirit (Proverbs 15:4).
• The mouth of the righteous is a fountain of life, but violence overwhelms the mouth of the wicked (Proverbs 10:11).
• The words of the wicked lie in wait for blood, but the speech of the upright rescues them (Proverbs 12:6).
• The lips of the wise spread knowledge; not so the hearts of fools (Proverbs 15:7).
• The lips of the righteous know what is fitting, but the mouth of the wicked only what is perverse (Proverbs 10:32).
• Better a poor man whose walk is blameless than a fool whose lips are perverse (Proverbs 19:1).
• Put away perversity from your mouth keep corrupt talk far from your lips (Proverbs 4:24).
• He who guards his lips guards his life, but he who speaks rashly will come to ruin (Proverbs 13:3).
• He who guards his mouth and his tongue keeps himself from calamity (Proverbs 21:23).
• Rid yourselves of all malice and deceit, hypocrisy, envy, and slander of every kind (1 Peter 2:1).
• A man of perverse heart does not prosper; he whose tongue is deceitful falls into trouble (Proverbs 17:20).
• Truthful lips endure forever, but a lying tongue lasts only a moment (Proverbs 12:19).
• The Lord detests lying lips, but He delights in men who are truthful (Proverbs 12:22).
• My mouth speaks what is true, for my lips detest wickedness. All of the words of my mouth are just; none of them is crooked or perverse (Proverbs 8:7-8).
• An honest answer is like a kiss on the lips (Proverbs 24:26).
• The righteous hate what is false, but the wicked bring shame and disgrace (Proverbs 13:5).
• Above all, do not swear—not by heaven or by earth or by anything else. Let your “Yes” be yes, and your “No,” no, or you will be condemned (James 5:12).
• He who conceals his sins does not prosper, but whoever confesses and renounces them finds mercy (Proverbs 28:13).
• The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit (Proverbs 18:21).
• Words from a wise man’s mouth are gracious, but a fool is consumed by his own lips. At the beginning his words are folly; at the end they are wicked madness—and the fool multiplies words. (Ecclesiastes 10:12-13).
• Better a patient man than a warrior, a man who controls his temper than one who takes a city (Proverbs 16:32).
• A man’s wisdom gives him patience; it is to his glory to overlook an offense (Proverbs 19:11).
• Better a dry crust with peace and quiet than a house full of feasting, with strife (Proverbs 17:1).
• Love is not rude, it is not self-seeking; it is not easily angered; it keeps no record of wrongs (1 Corinthians 13:5).
• Do you see a man wise in his own eyes? There is more hope for a fool than for him. (Proverbs 26:12).
• When pride comes, then disgrace, but with humility comes wisdom. (Proverbs 11:2).
• Before his downfall a man’s heart is proud, but humility comes before honor. (Proverbs 18:2).
• Pride goes before destruction, a haughty spirit before a fall (Proverbs 16:18).
• Pride only breeds quarrels, but wisdom is found in those who take advice (Proverbs 13:10).
• If you have played the fool and exalted yourself, or if you have planned evil, clap your hand over your mouth! For as churning the milk produces butter, and as twisting the nose produces blood, so stirring up anger produces strife (Proverbs 30:32-33).
• What causes fights and quarrels among you? Don’t they come from your desires that battle within you? You want something but don’t get it. You kill and covet, but you cannot have what you want. You quarrel and fight (James 4:1-2).
• Starting a quarrel is like breaching a dam; so drop the matter before a dispute breaks out (Proverbs 17:14).
• It is to a man’s honor to avoid strife, but every fool is quick to quarrel (Proverbs 20:3).
• He who loves a quarrel loves sin; he who builds a high gate invites destruction (Proverbs 17:19).
• If you keep on biting and devouring each other, watch out or you will be destroyed by each other (Galatians 5:15).
• The evil man is trapped by his sinful talk, but a righteous man escapes trouble. From the fruit of his lips a man is filled with good things as surely as the work of his hands rewards him (Proverbs 12:13-14).
• If a man pays back evil for good, evil will never leave his house (Proverbs 17:13).
• The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down (Proverbs 14:1).
• A foolish son is his father’s ruin, and a quarrelsome wife is like a constant dripping (Proverbs 19:13).
• A quarrelsome wife is like a constant dripping on a rainy day; restraining her is like restraining the wind or grasping oil with the hand (Proverbs 27:15-16).
• Better to live in a desert than with a quarrelsome and ill-tempered wife (Proverbs 21:19).
• Better to live on a corner of the roof than share a house with a quarrelsome wife (Proverbs 25:24).
• Wives, be submissive to your husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, when they see the purity and reverence of your lives. Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair and wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes. Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight (1 Peter 3:1-4).
• Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers (1 Peter 3:7).
• Finally, all of you, live in harmony with one another; be sympathetic, love as brothers, be compassionate and humble. Do not repay evil with evil or insult with insult, but with blessing, because to this you were called so that you may inherit a blessing (1 Peter 3:8-9).
• Each of you must put off falsehood and speak truthfully to his neighbor [spouse], for we are all members of one body. In your anger do not sin: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, and do not give the devil a foothold (Ephesians 4:25-27).
• In your anger do not sin. Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry. Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice… Therefore, rid yourselves of all malice and all deceit, hypocrisy, envy, and slander of every kind (1 Peter 2:11).
• If you have been trapped by what you said, ensnared by the words of your mouth, then do this, my son, to free yourself, since you have fallen into your neighbor’s [spouse's] hands: Go humble yourself; press your plea with your neighbor [spouse]! Allow no sleep to your eyes, no slumber to your eyelids. (Proverbs 6:2-5).
• Remind the people… to slander no one, to be peaceable and considerate, and to show true humility toward all men (Titus 3:2).
• Do everything without complaining or arguing, so that you may become blameless and pure, children of God without fault in a crooked and depraved generation, in which you shine like stars in the universe (Philippians 2:14-15).
• Make every effort to live in peace with all men and to be holy; without holiness no one will see the Lord. See to it that no one misses the grace of God and that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many (Hebrews 12:14-15).
• Let us therefore make every effort to do what leads to peace and to mutual edification (Romans 14:19).
• When we are cursed, we bless; when we are persecuted, we endure it; when we are slandered, we answer kindly (1 Corinthians 4:12-13).
• Don’t have anything to do with foolish and stupid arguments, because you know they produce quarrels. And the Lord’s servant must not quarrel; instead, he must be kind to everyone, able to teach, not resentful. Those who oppose him he must gently instruct, in the hope that God will grant them repentance leading them to a knowledge of the truth, and that they will come to their senses and escape from the trap of the devil, who has taken them captive to do his will (2 Timothy 2:23-26).
• And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, with whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you (Ephesians 4:30-32).
• Encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing (1 Thessalonians 5:11).
• Let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds. Let us not give up on meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but let us encourage one another—and all the more as you see the Day approaching (Hebrews 10:24-25).
• Love must be sincere. Hate what is evil; cling to what is good. Be devoted to one another in brotherly love. Honor one another above yourselves (Romans 12:9-10).
• Be imitators of God, therefore, as dearly loved children and live a life of love, just as Christ loved us and gave himself up for us as a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God (Ephesians 5:1-2).
• I urge you to live a life worthy of the calling you have received. Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love. Make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace (Ephesians 4:1-3).
• If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone (Romans 12:18).
• The wisdom that comes from heaven is first of all pure; then peace-loving, considerate, submissive, full of mercy and good fruit, impartial and sincere. Peacemakers who sow in peace raise a harvest of righteousness (James 3:17-18).
• Whatever happens, conduct yourselves in a manner worthy of the gospel of Christ (Philippians 1:27.).
• Aim for perfection, listen to my appeal, be of one mind, live in peace. And the God of love and peace will be with you. Greet one another with a holy kiss (2 Corinthians 13:11-12).
• Let your gentleness be evident to all. The Lord is near (Philippians 4:5).
• Whatever you do, whether in word or deed, do it all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through Him (Colossians 3:17).
• We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ (2 Corinthians 10:5).
• Like an earring of gold or an ornament of fine gold is a wise man’s rebuke to a listening ear (Proverbs 25:12).
• Let the wise listen and add to their learning, and let the discerning get guidance (Proverbs 1:5).
• The way of a fool seems right to him, but a wise man listens to advice (Proverbs 12:15).
• The discerning heart seeks knowledge, but the mouth of a fool feeds on folly (Proverbs 15:14).
• He who listens to a life-giving rebuke will be at home among the wise. (Proverbs 15:31).
• He who answers before listening—that is his folly and his shame (Proverbs 18:13).
• The heart of the discerning acquires knowledge; the ears of the wise seek it out (Proverbs 18:15).
• Listen to advice and accept instruction, and in the end you will be wise (Proverbs 19:20).
• Apply your heart to instruction and your ears to words of knowledge (Proverbs 23:12).
• Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry for man’s anger does not bring about the righteous life that God desires. Therefore, get rid of all moral filth and the evil that is so prevalent and humbly accept the word planted in you, which can save you. Do not merely listen to the word and so deceive yourselves. Do what it says.
Anyone who listens to the word but does not do what it says is like a man who looks at his face in a mirror and after looking at himself, goes away and immediately forgets what he looks like. But the man who looks intently into the perfect law that gives freedom, and continues to do this, not forgetting what he has heard, but doing it —he will be blessed in what he does. If anyone considers himself religious and yet does not keep a tight rein on his tongue, he deceives himself and his religion is worthless. (James 1:19-26).
(FIREPROOFING)
What Women Want: Listen with Your Heart
By Gary Smalley
Tips for Men
1. Make and keep eye contact. Few things assure your loved one that you are listening
closely more than making eye contact. Without making it seem like you are staring through her,
lock your eyes on hers and listen to what she has to say.
2. Cease all other activity. When your loved one wants to talk to you—when she has
something very important to talk to you about and needs your undivided attention—make sure
you can do it in an atmosphere free of other activity.
3. Let your loved one know you are being attentive. In addition to keeping eye contact,
let her know that you are listening closely and attentively by acknowledging what she’s saying
through head nods and other signs of attentiveness.
4. Speak occasional words of agreement or understanding. While you listen to your loved
one, it is good to interject words that communicate that you understand how that person feels.
Simple statements such as, “I can see how you would feel that way,” or “I would feel the same
way myself” can do much to communicate that you are listening with you heart.
5. Ignore all interruptions. Sometimes a man and his loved one need to get to a place where
there is no chance they will be interrupted so they can jus talk. When you take the time to listen
with your heart, try to do it where you won’t be interrupted.
How women say men can become experts at listening with their hearts:
▪ “Solve problems with me, not for me.”
▪ “Just listen. Give me a chance to voice my inner thoughts and feelings.”
▪ “Listen without offering unsolicited advice or blame.”
▪ “Teach me your problem solving skills.”
▪ “If you don’t understand what I’m saying, ask me questions.”
▪ “Offer feedback that says you understand what I’m telling you.”
▪ “Be compassionate as you listen.”
▪ “Resist laughing or mocking me in what I have to say.”
▪ “Offer me advice with humility.”
▪ “Use facial expressions and body language so that I know you’re really hearing me.”
Rekindle the Joy
of Being Married
Marriages hold no joy for couples who feel stuck. But they hold infinite happiness for couples
who learn to celebrate their one-of-a-kind love. The fifth of the 6 Secrets to a Lasting Love is
Celebrating Love.
Celebrating love revels in the emotional, physical, and spiritual connections that bond you to
your spouse. It’s a love that protects you and your spouse from drifting apart and enables you to
fall in love and feel discovered all over again. Celebrating love rejoices daily in the marriage you
have and helps you feel cherished and captivated by each other.
Ideas for Celebrating Your Husband
• Send him off and welcome him home with a smile and a kiss.
• Write down a list of reasons why you love him, then share the list with him over a
romantic dinner.
• Buy attractive new nightwear for yourself – and hide his!
Ideas for Celebrating Your Wife
• Compliment her, especially for the little things.
• Give her a head-to-toe massage.
• Send her cards or love letters.
SHOUT OUT TO MY SISTER V-FRESH FOR PUTTING ME UP ON "FIREPROOF" THE MOVIE TWO YEARS AGO// I HIGHLY RECOMMEND IT TO ALL!!!!!!!!!!!
Breakups are never easy, even if you and your ex-boyfriend parted as friends. There will always be that lingering doubt as to whether or not you have made the right decision to call it quits and whether or not the situation would have turned out the way they did if you did things differently while you were still in the relationship.
If ordinary breakups are never easy, imagine how difficult traumatic breakups are. They are not always as exaggerated as the movies show them, but they definitely hurt nonetheless. We women deal with it in our own way, but crying ourselves to sleep, shutting ourselves in our apartment, feeling depressed and uninterested in anything, and believing that life as we knew it just ended are only some of the common reactions we may experience as we go through a traumatic breakup. Sometimes, we may even feel that life is not worth living anymore and we just want it to end.
If you are going through the aftermath of a traumatic breakup right now and you feel like you don't want to go through life anymore, hang on for a bit and think things through. You can still get on with your life even if your ex dumped you in a really bad way. Things will never be the same again, but you can emerge out of this crisis a much stronger woman.
The first thing you need to do to get over the heartache is to find support from your family and friends. Let the love and caring that they have for you wash over you and heal you. They will not help you forget the pain, but they can at least distract you and keep you from thinking about the breakup. Hang out with them and try to have fun.
Second, get rid of the things in your life that remind you of him. Did he give you a dress because he liked seeing you wearing it? Give it away, donate it or sell it to a secondhand shop. If you cannot bear to part with a few things, like love letters and Christmas cards, keep them away somewhere in your apartment where it will not be easy for you to find them. If your home itself reminds you of him, go ahead and move to a new home if you can afford to.
Third, keep busy. If you have nothing to do after coming home from work, then take up a hobby or anything that will keep you from being idle. Go hit the gym or attend a yoga class so the workouts will make you tired enough to keep from thinking of him before you go to bed. Learn new skills that will prove useful to you. Work on improving yourself.
Lastly, take your time before heading back full swing into the dating scene. Falling in love on a rebound, especially after a traumatic breakup, is never a good idea. You will end up being unfair to your new boyfriend, not to mention to yourself, because you have not given yourself the time to heal and have something whole to offer your new love.
A traumatic breakup is never an easy thing. But that does not mean that it is already the end of the world. You can live through it by surrounding yourself with people who love you, by keeping yourself distracted, and by letting yourself heal your broken heart.
Turn to "GOD" Almighty, he'll never let you down or leave you out in the cold when others will. "GOD" has to be the center and the true souce of power for you bottomline. You have to wake up spiritually and mentally and you have to trust in "GOD" totally. Its never easy but people do it everyday, every week, every month, and every year. Relationships and heartache are no joke, absolutely no joke whatsoever. But millions of people rebound and bounce back stronger than ever from bad breakups. You can't give up on life and never on yourself and "GOD"s abilitity to heal you and your situation bottomline!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! TO "GOD BE THE GLORY!!! (THA CHILL ONE)
1.Friends are the sunshine of life.
2.Friendship is one mind in two bodies. Unknown Friends are the siblings God never gave us.
3.Friendship improves happiness, and abates misery, by doubling our joys, and dividing our grief.
4.True friendship is like sound health; the value of it is seldom known until it be lost.
5.The glory of friendship is not the outstretched hand, nor the kindly smile, nor the joy of companionship; it is the spiritual inspiration that comes to one when he discovers that someone else believes in him and is willing to trust him with his friendship.
6.Friendship isn't a big thing - it's a million little things.
7.There are big ships and small ships. But the best ship of all is friendship.
8.Don't walk in front of me, I may not follow.
Don't walk behind me, I may not lead.I shot an arrow into the air,
It fell to earth, I knew not where;
For so swiftly it flew, the sight
Could not follow it in its flight.
I breathed a song into the air,
It fell to earth, I knew not where;
For, who has sight so keen and strong
That it can follow the flight of song?
Long, long afterward, in an oakFriendship is not diminished by distance or time, by imprisonment or war, by suffering or silence. It is in these things that it roots most deeply.
I found the arrow, still unbroke;
And the song, from beginning to end,
I found again in the heart of a friend.
10.
Just walk beside me and be my friend.
(FRIENDSHIP QUOTES)
CNN) -- Worried about when you might get dumped? Facebook knows.
That's according to a graphic making the rounds online that uses Facebook status updates to chart what time of year people are splitting up.
British journalist and graphic designer David McCandless, who specializes in showcasing data in visual ways, compiled the chart. He showed off the graphic at a TED conference last July in Oxford
In the talk, McCandless said he and a colleague scraped 10,000 Facebook status updates for the phrases "breakup" and "broken up."
They found two big spikes on the calendar for breakups. The first was after Valentine's Day -- that holiday has a way of defining relationships, for better or worse -- and in the weeks leading up to spring break. Maybe spring fever makes people restless, or maybe college students just don't want to be tied down when they're partying in Cancun.
And let's hear it for cheapskates. The other big romantically treacherous time, according to the graph, is about two weeks before Christmas -- presumably as people begin pricing gifts for their significant others.
Mondays, as if they weren't bad enough, are the most likely day to break up. Summer and fall look like the safest seasons.
And, possibly showing that some people's sense of humor is more twisted than others, there's a spike in breakups on April Fool's Day.
What single day are you least likely to get a "Dear John (or Jane)" letter?
"Christmas Day," McCandless said. "Who would do that?"
The basis of every long lasting relationship, be it courtship between two people or marriage is love, respect and understanding. There have been many cases where two people meet each other, fall in love, spend time together, but after a period of time find that they do not have anything in common. This can be a heart breaking phase for both, more so when they are married and have children. The reason for many of these breakups have been cited as boredom and missing the fun they had experienced during the initial months of their relationship. One way of avoiding such situations in a relationship would be spending quality time with each other, doing things that both of love, for instance, a hobby.
Studies have shown that sharing a hobby with one's partner is a sure way of increasing the success rate of the relationship. Many couples have agreed that spending time doing recreational activities have helped in strengthening their bond. Hobbies not only help in increasing their love, but also building up a friendship that would add meaning to their relationship. It would aid in increasing the closeness between the couple, and also in increasing the level of understanding between them. However, there are some things that have to be considered before deciding on a hobby.Each partner would have different interests and hobbies. First, you two need to sit together and discuss each others likes and dislikes. One must understand and respect each other's opinion about certain things. Discuss the games and things you liked to do when you both were kids. This may help you in coming up with some ideas about your hobbies together. It you are having problems in finding fun hobbies for couples, here is a list of hobbies for couples from which you can choose those that you and your partner would love to do together.
Sports is the hobby that is commonly chosen by couples. Usually, sports are considered to be something that only guys are interested in. This is a very general conclusion, rather, there are many women who love watching as well as playing different types of sports. Join an institute where you can learn some type of sport. It has been observed that most couples go for golf when it comes to selecting a sport as a hobby. You can also join a class for learning tennis, badminton, basketball, etc. If one of the partner is a champion in some kind of sport, he/she can train the other partner. In this way, you can spend more time together. However, sometimes couples become very competitive while playing and this can give rise to conflicts and issues. To avoid such things, each partner must remember that is to be done for fun and bonding, and not to win or lose.
Going for dancing classes could be another great idea for hobbies for young couples. If both of you love dancing, then joining a salsa or any other form of dance would help in enjoying and learning together. Even if your partner is not very interested in dance, and has two right feet, do not let it bother you much. Think about the effort he/she is taking to be with youWorking out together would be another fabulous idea to be implemented as a hobby for married couples as well as for young couples. Many couples have said that hitting the gym together everyday for exercising allows them to be together in a productive way, while remaining fit. If you are not too much interested in joining a gym, another idea would be to go for long walks or jogging to a nearby park or jogging area. The main purpose of a hobby together is to have fun, for which it is not necessary for you to spend lots of money.
If you and your partner love traveling and visiting new places, this would also be a good hobby idea for couples. You can search on the Internet for nearby places where you can make short vacation trips during weekends. Select one location and drive down to explore these places every weekend. However, this hobby can prove a quite expensive at times. So if you are seriously thinking about traveling as a hobby, plan out your expenses carefully with your partner before beginning your journey.
Other than these, some other hobbies for couples include collecting stamps or foreign coins, animal breeding, gardening, cooking, playing indoor games, creating short films, etc. You can also use your creative and innovative skills and come up with new hobbies and activities, anything that interests both. Hobbies for couples should not only be entertaining, but also should aid in strengthening the bond of love.
Compiling accurate statistics on the most commonly cited causes of the breakdown of a marriage is virtually impossible - these are the top ten reasons for divorce cited by DivorceGuide.com: (http://www.divorceguide.com)
1. Infidelity
It could be argued that infidelity within marriages is a reaction by a spouse to the real breakdown of the marriage, and is not itself the cause. Either way, it is cited as the cause of almost one third of divorces ins the USA (making it the most common reason for divorce). Surveys have shown that adultery occurs in over half of failed marriages. Spouses may be unfaithful consistently during an affair, intermittently, or just once in a one night stand. Common explanations for unfaithfulness include resentment or anger (with the other spouse) and sexual boredom.
2. Communication breakdown
Commonly, couples become unable to communicate in a normal, meaningful fashion. Either spouse's inability to avoid exchanges which invariably result in conflict is representative of a communication breakdown in the marriage. In extreme cases (especially if accompanied by abusive tendencies), a growing inability to deal with any verbal exchanges without conflict could be indicative of a much more serious problem that requires the attention of a mental health professional. More often, however, growing differences between the spouses which may have their roots in other mentioned causes are to blame for communication breakdowns.
3. Physical, psychological, or emotional abuse
Where either spouse is frequently abusive towards children or each other, the other spouse has clear grounds for divorce. Physical abuse includes all types violence (fighting, manhandling, and physical bullying of an individual). Emotional or Psychological and abuse can be as seemingly innocuous as verbal insults, and can range to taunting, humiliation, intimidation, and consistent negative reinforcement.
4. Financial issues
One of the most common reasons for divorce is economic strain or collapse of the family. Every couple has to deal with money at some stage, and when there is not enough to go around, differences in temperament and priorities are brought to a head. Even if there is no debt incurred, disagreements over the allocation of money often be enough to end an already irritated relationship.
Boredom
Biologically speaking, humans' preference is to pair for about seven years before changing mates. While well matched couples will, naturally, stay together for much longer than this, and possibly for life, most do not. Some couples will eventually grow distant, disinterested, and eventually bored with each other. Such divorces are often the least bitter of all, and often end amiably enough.
Addiction. Alcohol and drugs are two major areas in which a person can become addicted. There are other areas too but when a person is in the grip of addiction, they do not act in the interests of their spouse. Money is wasted on their addiction and the addict is no longer a kind and considerate spouse. Many marriages fail when addiction takes control.
Abuse. There are many types of abuse. The physical abuse with all its terror and fear is a dreadful thing. But a person including a child can be abused verbally and taunts and ridicule themselves are frightening. Any spouse in an abusive marriage needs professional help as soon as possible. On many occasions, abuse will cause the marriage to end in divorce.
Mismatch. Many couples marry because of their feelings of love but these feelings can die down in time. If the feelings die, the couple finds that they have little if anything in common and such a mismatch can destroy a marriage. Many couples have a hobby which is of no interest to their mate but having nothing in common will often make for a difficult marriage.
Kids. Adults don't really know how their children will turn out and how they, the parents, will behave in raising the kids. But when the challenges appear, disagreements over child-rearing can be a major cause of divorce.
Sexual problems. Some couples find their sex life is not as they would wish and there is any number of differences in this area of intimacy. Many problems are resolved but some are not and can lead to a marriage breakdown.
Faith. When couples of a different religion marry there is always the possibility that the faith of one or of both partners may be a factor in ending their marriage.
Lack of interest. In some marriages, boredom sets in. What was expected didn't happen or the marriage simply fades away for lack of interest.
(DIVORCE GUIDE)
It’s time for another “quotes” article.......What is it that is so fascinating about break up quotes anyway?
First of all, they help us to realize that we are not alone out there. People have suffered from broken hearts back through hundreds of years.
Thinking that you are alone with your break up is not as absurd as many of you perhaps might think. One of the main characteristics of break ups is that we are overcome with overwhelming loneliness. Knowing that other people have had this problem too, and survived, gives you comfort and strength to hang in there.
On the other side, it’s always helpful to see another angle. Artists especially seem to have a different view of the world and life – their gift is to enliven the unaware. They help us to understand what we may already know in our minds, but the feelings in our heart resist believing.
So, I’ve collected the 10 most inspiring break up quotes for you, which not only sound good, but actually make you feel better and more positive about the future if you are going through a break up right now.
Here they are:1.“‘Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.”
—Alfred Lord Tennyson
Everyone who has suffered from a broken heart at any time has heard this quote. Unfortunately it does not give comfort at the beginning, only years later will you realize its profoundness and value.
2.“If you really love something set it free. If it comes back it’s yours, if not it wasn’t meant to be.”
—unknown
I heard this the first time in the movie Indecent Proposal. It illustrates the necessity of detachment, of “letting go” after a break up.
3.“You have to forgive to forget, and forget, to feel again.”
—unknown
There is no moving on without forgiveness, and more importantly: there is no new beginning while carrying “old emotional baggage”.
4.“Those who do not know how to weep with their whole heart do not know how to laugh either.”
—Golda Meir
Experiencing the negative emotions is part of life. Only if we are able to go through them with our full consciousness can we also appreciate and benefit from the positive ones.
5.“Relationships are like glass. Sometimes it’s better to leave them broken than try to hurt yourself putting it back together.”
Sometimes relationships can’t be fixed. That is when it’s better to move on. Sad, but very often true.
6.“Some people think that it’s holding on that makes one strong; sometimes it’s letting go.”
—unknown
Only when you are able to completely detach yourself, can you be free. After a break up, and elsewhere in life. Be a leaf floating in a river, not knowing where it might take you. This is true freedom.
7.“The loss of love is not nearly as painful as our resistance to accepting it is.”
—Tigress Luv
Acceptance is one important step in healing from a break up. This is part of the painful first phase.
8.“I’m going to smile and make you think I’m happy, I’m going to laugh, so you don’t see me cry, I’m going to let you go in style, and even if it kills me – I’m going to smile.”
—Lone StarThis is actually some great break up advice in two ways: first you are not being needy in front of your Ex, you demonstrate strength and your Ex may wonder if s/he has made the right decision.
Also, constant smiling despite the fact that you feel terrible is a great way “to trick” your mind. By smiling, the body sends signals to the mind that you are happy, even if you are not. Eventually the mind WILL accept the state of the body.
This is simple neuro-linguistic programming.
9.“Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional.”
—M. Kathleen Casey
This is a great one.
It means that you have the choice to accept the pain and not allow it to turn into suffering.
One of the main reasons that mental pain turns into suffering is continual mental reasoning. We can break that vicious cycle by learning to control our thoughts.
10.“I don’t miss him, I miss who I thought he was.”
—unknown
It is a great accomplishment to realize that we loved a concept, a picture we had in our minds, rather than the person himself. When we break up, it’s this concept we miss, and what causes the pain is the failure of the same.
These were some of the best inspirational break up quotes I could find; I hope you’ve enjoyed them.
They teach us about detachment, the necessity to forgive and let go, to live life to the fullest with all its dark sides, acceptance, neuro-linguistic programming, mental control and the existence of false pictures.
All virtues for overcoming a break up, and you are now one step closer to finding the secret of how to get over a break up.
For that arduous task, I wish you all the best.
(EDDIE C.)
If the usual bump and grind is starting to lose its thrill, then its time to move up to the exotic sex positions family...
Be warned; some of the exotic positions require a substantial amount of physical strength and endurance... make sure not to overdue it, and not to attempt positions outside of your physical capabilities.
The Worm Sex Position is the Missionary position with the receiver on top but facing the giver's feet. Getting into the position is a little trickier than usual. The giver lies back on the bed and has the receiver sit on top of them, but as the position will put the penis at an unusual angle from the giver's body (i.e. pointing downwards) it will be easier if the receiver inserts from a seated (facing away) position, and then carefully lays forward while sliding their legs back toward the giver's head.
Care should be taken to not strain the penis further than it is comfortably capable of flexing!A variation of the Intersextion position the Twister position differs because both the giver's and receiver's legs are wrapped around each others torso (head to toe). This allows for an unusual angle for penetration. However, care should be taken to not ever-extend the penis which is pointed at an unusual (downward) angle.Suspended Mastery is an adaptation of Mastery. To get into the position the receiver simply sits in the lap of their seated partner facing them and on the edge of a bed or couch. The receiver then leans back away from the edge and their partner, while the giver provides support by holding on to their hands. Unfortunately, the position isn't great for generating vertical movement, so a rocking motion will be required to create horizontal movementThe Ex Sex - Sex Position is the Missionary position with the giver on top but facing the receiver's feet. Getting into the position is a little trickier than usual. The receiver lies back on the bed and has the giver lay on top of them, but as the position will put the penis at an unusual angle from the giver's body (i.e. pointing downwards) the giver should take care to not strain the penis further than it is comfortably capable of flexing!
The advantage of Reverse Pile Driver versus the original Pile Driver falls in the performer's favor; the potential of bending their penis too far is at least partially remedied, which gives them the confidence to pump as they please. With that being said, the giver must be conscious of their partner folded up beneath them, and not thrust so hard that they accidentally knock them over!
This pose can be very gratifying for the receiver, but it does require them to build strength and flexibility in the muscles of their back. Because Reverse Pile Driver is an inversion as well as a deep forward bend, receiving partners ought to practice it beforehand and be properly 'warmed up' before executing. (SEX 101)
Receivers, prepare yourselves by practicing the yoga equivalent known as Halasana or Plow Pose. You may keep your legs together with knees unbent or, if you're capable, draw the knees to floor on either side of the shoulders - you're sure to get a real stretch
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Fun Relationship Questions List - Couples Questions
What's better than a couple talking about their relationship? Guys are notorious for not wanting to talk about "girl stuff" and "relationship questions", so this is a fun way to sneak in an informal and fun relationship talk. Pull out this "fun relationship pop quiz" and the two of you will end up talking about how you got together and why. And the sneaky good thing about these fun questions is they let you focus on the good times..........When was the first time you became aware of me?
Do you remember the first thing we said to one another?
What was your first impression of me? Did you ever dislike me?
What's your favorite memory of me?
What do you like best about me?
What is your favorite way of spending time with me?
Fun Relationship Questions List - Him or Her Questions
These fun questions have to do with your boyfriend or girlfriend. Asks these questions and you get them talking about themselves and their life. Listen to what they say and don't say and you'll probably learn a few things you never knew about him or her. You'll probably get your partner thinking about something he or she hasn't thought about in years, and probably bring back good memories from the past. Not only will these life questions be fun to ask, but it will bring the two of you closer together
How would you describe yourself?
What is something you did as a teen that you parents never learned about?
Who was the first person you kissed? What were the circumstances?
What's the craziest dream you've ever had? What's the most recent dream you can remember?
What is your first childhood memory?
What was the happiest moment of your life?
What was your most embarrassing moment? How did you respond?
Who has been the most important person in your life?
Do you have any birthmarks? If so, where is it? Fun Relationship Questions List - Favorite Love Questions
This section of "relationship questions" focuses on your partner's favorite and least favorite things in life. Many of these will be simple one- and two-word answers, but get your boyfriend or girlfriend to elaborate on why they like or dislike what they do. Mainly focus on "what he likes" as opposed to "what he dislikes", because there's plenty of time for all that negative stuff later. Still, learning what he or she enjoys or avoids is telling about your partner's personality and approach to life, so you can learn something by asking "favorite questions" about most anything. More than one person has said that "we are what we like and dislike", so get a glimpse into his or her personality with this fun little like/dislike quiz.
What's your favorite time of the year? Why?
What is your favorite holiday? If you could go anywhere on a vacation, where would you go?
If you were asked to give yourself a nickname, what would it be?
If you were asked to give me a nickname, what would it be?
Would you mind if your partner making more money than you?
If your partner could make more money, would you stay home with the kids?
If you were stranded on an island and allowed one luxury item, what would it be?
What's the first thing you would do if you won $50,000?
What would you do if you had one day left to live?
When you ask fun relationship questions, pretend you're the host of a game show like the dating game or a newlywed game. Make answering a relationship question a fun experience instead of an inquisition. With our great questions list, you'll learn something about your boyfriend and your romance while you're at it. The next time your relationship partner asks "What can we do for fun?", you can pull out this fun relationship quiz.
You can never leave spiritual and mental questions out,you have to be creative but direct with faith and belief related questions and commentary!!!!!! (Relationship Questions 101)........
Who is your favorite actor? Actress?
Who is your least favorite actor or actress?
What's your favorite color?
What is your least favorite color?
What's your favorite type of food? Least favorite type of food?
Do you fall for a person fast?
Have you ever talked marriage with another person?
How would you like to be remembered?
Accessorize the action
To really blow his mind, break out the bling-bling and wear nothing but jewelry to bed: It'll fulfill his Vegas-showgirl fantasy. Graze the nape of his neck with your chandelier earrings. Slip on a stack of bangles and create a clamor under the comforter. Or skim your superlong strand of faux pearls up and down his legs. (Earn bonus points if you tie him to the bedpost with them.)
The secret to making midweek nooky more naughty: Pop a few exotic microbrews in the sack, and then drink to the rowdy fun to come.
Who says you have to be a Hollywood "it" girl to get caught sneaking a sensuous snuggle with your man? The next time you're dining à deux, squeeze in next to him on the same side of the booth or table — as if you're at the most romantic cafe in Paris. Then let your tongue do the talking.
No, we're not suggesting you wear leather; just take charge in the bedroom. Order him to strip, then to kiss your toes, then your calves, then your knees, then
Instead of parking your hands in his hair or on the small of his back, keep your fingertips — with their oh-so-sensitive nerve endings — roaming over his body. This extrasensory experience will supersize both your pleasure and his.your....Exercise, sexerciseGarter belt
Haven't worn one since your wedding? Then it's time to give him a second viewing. (It'll transform you into a sultry femme fatale from a forties movie; perhaps he'll want to role-play the hard-boiled private eye.) On your next date night, slide his palm under your skirt just far enough so that he realizes you aren't wearing your usual hose. A sexy mystery will begin!
Transform standard missionary-style sex into sizzling passion with one of these position-switching moves: 1. Stick a pillow under your butt — the lift will make sure you're rubbed in the most intense way. 2. Once he's inside you, squeeze your legs together for a more tantalizing fit. 3. Pull your legs up around the sides of his thighs; then gently push his tush with your soles.Remember in high school, when you got a rush from sharing the same cone with a guy? Next time you're Ben & Jerry's bound, split a scoop with your sweetie. Be sure to lick the drips off his fingers and chin.
Jump his bones
Sneak up from behind while your guy is paying the bills. Slip into the steamy bathroom while he's showering. Fondle his thigh while he's watching Sunday afternoon football. And be sure to moan that he's too hot and irresistible for you to wait.
Just once — heck, make that once a day — treat yourself to a head-thrown-back, big-screen smooch. Or try this riveting slow-motion twist: Grab him by his tie, reel him in, and plant your luscious, lingering lips on him. Who does that kind of thing, anyway? Why, you two do!
You already know that a little black dress is essential. But what every married gal also needs is a barely there lace bikini or thong in noir. It'll make your man dizzy with desire.Messages without words
Shh! Agree to spend an evening using only body language to get your amorous intentions across. You'll discover a new level of touchNaughty videos
Tell your hubby that you really want to watch a special documentary together; then surprise him by turning off the lights and turning on a racy film.Open your eyes
For the ultimate in bedroom bonding, make a pact to keep your pupils focused on each other while doing the deed. You'll stay in the moment — getting an eyeful of each other's climaxes.(SEXANDLOVE//REDBOOK)
Trust us: There's a link between working up a sweat and having hot sex. When your blood is really pumping, your orgasms are more intense. For maximum mojo, hit the gym together late in the day, as close to your personal blastoff time as possible.
“Whenever you're in conflict with someone, there is one factor that can make the difference between damaging your relationship and deepening it. That factor is attitude.”
“Find a guy who calls you beautiful instead of hot, who calls you back when you hang up on him, who will lie under the stars and listen to your heartbeat, or will stay awake just to watch you sleep... wait for the boy who kisses your forehead, who wants to show you off to the world when you are in sweats, who holds your hand in front of his friends, who thinks you're just as pretty without makeup on. One who is constantly reminding you of how much he cares and how lucky his is to have you.... The one who turns to his friends and says, 'that's her.'”
“I just broke up with someone and the last thing she said to me was "You'll never find anyone like me again!" I'm thinking, "I should hope not! If I don't want you, why would I want someone like you."”
“You can't stop loving or wanting to love because when its right, it's the best thing in the world. When you're in a relationship and it's good, even if nothing else in your life is right, you feel like your whole world is complete.”
True love is like a pair of socks: you gotta have two and they've gotta match.”
“Some people come into our lives and quickly go. Some stay for awhile and leave footprints on our hearts. And we are never, ever the same.”
“How can a woman be expected to be happy with a man who insists on treating her as if she were a perfectly normal human being.”“I love you smile at me, I love the way your hands reach out and hold me near....I believe this is heaven to no one else but me.”
“The decision to kiss for the first time is the most crucial in any love story. It changes the relationship of two people much more strongly than even the final surrender; because this kiss already has within it that surrender.”
“If the essence of my being has caused a smile to have appeared upon your face or a touch of joy within your heart.Then in living - I have made my mark.”
“Relationships are like crystals, you don't realize how much you love it until it breaks.”
Time goes by so fast, people go in and out of your life. You must never miss the opportunity to tell these people how much they mean to you
Intimacy
Intimacy by Dr. Ava Cadell
What is intimacy and how can I experience it? This is a universal question that I am asked so often that I’d like to give you my definition of intimacy.
“Let’s start by breaking down the word intimacy and look at it phonetically. Into sounds very inviting doesn’t it? When you get into something, it means you really want to be there, right? What about Me See? You’re saying,“This is ME. See me, all of me because I have nothing to hide.” It’s like having a long zipper from your head to your toes, opening it and saying, “here I am.” Intimacy is about getting rid of protective layers and facades and revealing yourself to someone you truly love.
•Intimacy is not a wild, rapid passion, but a slow burning passion.
•Intimacy doesn’t have to be serious; it can be fun like a Monopoly game. Your goal in Monopoly is to own expensive hotels on Park Place, but you can’t do that until you have purchased some less expensive properties on Baltic Ave. It’s the same with intimacy. Your goal is to connect with someone mentally, emotionally, and sexually, but you have to work your way up to it by taking your time, getting to know your partner, exploring non-sexual areas, and work up to primary erogenous zones.
•For intimacy you need to be 100% present and enjoy the journey as much as the destination.
•When a woman feels intimate with her man, she feels safe and she will surrender herself to him so she can feel ultimate pleasure and satisfaction without any inhibitions.
•For a man intimacy can be better than sex because it takes the pressure off performance and it makes him feel valued by his partner
As a visual aid to demonstrate the five keys to intimacy, I ask my clients to hold up their prominent hand as we go through each finger to define the five steps to Intimacy:1.Thumb – When we raise our thumb, what does it symbolize? Everything is OK. Your thumb represents your ego. In order to experience intimacy you need to surrender your ego. Intimacy is not about conquest, but a personal journey with someone you love. So step one is to surrender your ego, let your partner see who you really are, even when you’re feeling vulnerable.
2.Forefinger – When you wag your forefinger at someone or when they wag it at you, what does that represent? This is the finger of authority and knowledge. But what about when you were a child and you pointed your forefinger, what did it represent then? The forefinger is also the finger that was used in the movies ET and Cocoon to touch the extraterrestrials inquisitively. So the second step towards intimacy is to always be curious and willing to learn about your partner’s wants, needs, desires, and fears.
3.Middle finger – What do you think this finger represents? It’s called the “swear finger” and it means “up yours” in slang terms. It’s a sign of defiance! Yet it’s a sign to express how you feel. In relationships men often repress their feelings, especially successful powerful men who learn that success comes from not expressing feelings because that shows weakness. But you cannot experience intimacy without letting down your defenses and opening up your heart. Soften your swear finger and you’ll experience the third step towards intimacy. That is to open up your heart, verbalize, and demonstrate your emotions to your partner because they cannot read your mind.
4.Ring finger – This is the finger that people use to display their wedding ring on. It’s also the finger of hope and trust. You wouldn’t dream of marrying someone you didn’t trust. The forth step to achieving intimacy is for you to earn your partner’s trust and respect by being non-judgmental and unconditionally supportive and loving. A prelude to this is to trust and respect you because if you don’t, then you can’t expect your partner to either.
5.Pinky – What do you think of when you wave your pinky finger? As children we interlock pinkies when we want to keep a promise, so let’s apply this finger to the fifth step to intimacy as the promise of a deeper connection through open and honest communication. Make time for quality communication with your partner every single day where you both take turns talking, listening and acknowledging each other.
Remember the five steps to Intimacy and think of intimacy like an artichoke. You have to peel off the layers and savor them before you can devour the succulent tender heart.
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