Don’t Worry About What Other People Think
Your marriage is just that: yours. You have the right to do with it what you will, it’s your masterpiece. We all spend so much time worrying about what other people think, but you know what other people are thinking about? They’re worried about what you think of them! Don’t spend too much energy trying to conform to some
(2)- Love is Not About How You Feel
It’s about how you make your spouse feel. We have a natural tendency to always be focused on ourselves, but when you live for someone else, beautiful things happen.
(3) – Create the Helpful Habits
Habits make for poor masters, but make for excellent slaves.
(4)- Love is Commitment
When we’re young, we think of love as that overwhelming emotion that sweeps us up and makes us do silly things. While this is a wonderful aspect of love, we don’t live the majority of ours lives young! This is nothing to worry about, just the natural order of things. When you two exchanged vows, you promised to be there for each other. The word “commitment” gets thrown around a lot, so maybe it’s time to re-examine your commitment. When you do something for your spouse, that’s commitment (which is love). When you sacrifice something
(5)- Take a Look at Your Finances -Early and Often
You many have heard that arguments over money are the numero uno reason for divorce. You heard right! Most people don’t have a clue how to manage their money. And why should they? We grow up without any financial training whatsoever, and discussing money publically is taboo. We are bombarded by literally thousands of advertising messages every single day, and we live in a culture that absolutely worships conspicuous consumption.
Furthermore, unless we’re lucky enough to be guided by someone who cares (not someone earning a commission off of our financial decisions), we’re rudderless ships at best.
So what happens to a ship with no direction? It’s cast about any which way the wind blows. Turns out the “wind” in our financial lives is the laser-focused messages of marketers everywhere. If you don’t know how to feel or what to buy at any given moment, there are thousands of well crafted messages vying for your attention and dying to tell you what to do.
The result of this lack of direction is that you’re working your tail off to make money to throw away to buy things you don’t need to impress people you don’t care about. Vicious cycle, read that again and make sure that isn’t you. If it is, get crackin’ on a solution today. It will literally be one of the best things you’ll ever do for your marriage. This is easily the most important of the successful marriage tips on this list.
Take a look at your household finances as early as possible in your marriage. I highly recommend reading anything by Dave Ramsey and taking a class of his if possible. You have the power to control what may be one of the most important areas of your marriage, take control as soon as possible and the peace you will feel is indescribable.
(6)- Play to Your Strengths
Hopefully by this point is your life you’re not still wasting a ton of energy trying to improve your weakest talents. You’ve always gravitated naturally to certain areas of interest and expertise. Your spouse has also always naturally done this. Set some time aside, alone or as a couple, to look at your strengths.
Are you banging your head against a wall working on something that your spouse is better at? If so, let them handle it or help you out. There may be things that you take joy in that drive your spouse crazy, make sure you handle those things for each other.
By playing to your strengths,
(7)- Stay in the Moment
“We can’t wait to get married, we are so in love!”
“We can’t wait to move into that house, we are really going places!”
“We can’t wait for the baby, he’s going to be so beautiful!”
Other things to plug in here: I can’t wait for the promotion, new car, bigger house, etc.
These are all things I’ve said in my life, and getting to the next step is always fun. You need to bear in mind, however, that the vast majority of your life is lived day to day. To be happy, you need to be happy with the day to day stuff.
If you’re always spending every moment in anticipation of the next big thing, you’re probably overlooking some beautiful moments happening right now.
Stay in the moment. Once a moment is gone, it is absolutely gone forever.
Your baby will never be so small again, enjoy this phase of their life.
You will never again be as young as you are now, enjoy your youth.
No matter how things are going in your life right now, you will look back on them fondly (or at least gratefully) in ten years.
Stay in the moment always, and you’ll have lived a full life when you come to the end of your journey.
(8) – Contribute Regularly to Your Marriage Account
Don’t worry, I’m done dispensing financial advice here. When I refer to your Marriage Account, I’m talking about that invisible level of goodwill you both feel towards each other. When you buy your wife flowers, you’re making a deposit to the Marriage Account. When you go down on your husband (yep, you read that right), you’re making a deposit into the Marriage Account.
There will inevitably come times when unexpected withdraws are necessary (broken promises, mistakes, etc), and having a healthy cushion in the Marriage Account will keep spirits high in your household.
(9) – Write Notes
Who doesn’t appreciate a note telling them how great they are? Would you appreciate this? Yep, you would. Guess what, so would your spouse! What kind of a time investment are we talking about here?
Here’s a suggestion for the creatively challenged: “Honey, I love you and I love our life together. You’re the best, and you make me happy.”
Not the toughest of these successful marriage tips, but if you haven’t written your spouse a sweet note in the last month, do it today.
(10) – Don’t Air Dirty Laundry
Don Henley had it right: “People love it when you lose, they love dirty laundry.”
I don’t know why humans crave juicy gossip, but the popularity of E News proves we can’t get enough. If you’ve got some internal strife going on in your marriage, don’t make it public by complaining about your partner to groups of people.
Doing this makes you look untrustworthy, and the life of whatever tails you tell may be longer than you know. Share your troubles privately with family or close friends, but don’t invite everyone to a spectacle.
If public invitations to spectacles involving your private matters are your way of getting attention, please examine and rethink your sad little life.
(11) -Celebrate Small Victories
You should celebrate all victories, but I’m mentioning the small victories here because somebody needs to stick up for them. Your life is hard enough without you belittling your accomplishments.
Celebrate all of ‘em, you earned it.
(12) – Laugh
When was the last time you had a good laugh together? Hopefully it was earlier today, but maybe not. Laughing is so good for our immune system, and so great for our relationships. Get some laughter however you need to.
If you’re stuck for ideas, prowl the internet to find some funny videos. I can’t figure out why watching others fall down is so funny, but it always is.
(13) – Talk About Any Purchase Over $300
Ah, I told you I was done with the finance stuff, but I lied.
Add some context – we are all far more blessed than we ever realize. It’s very easy to lose sight of this blessing however, and adding some perspective to your life will highlight for you how Lucky you are.
(14) – Learn Each Others Language’
We tend think others think like we do. “Why would someone do ____?” We often ask ourselves. The answer is that the person that just did _____ has a completely different way of seeing the world than you do.
Even though your spouse and you may be very compatible, complimentary, or both, you still are very different people with a billion different life experiences that shaped your unique character.
Spend some time figuring out what makes each of you tick. Catering to your partner’s unique likes and avoiding their unique dislikes is one of the best successful marriage tips you can implement.
(15) – Plan for Sex
Ugh, talk about making something fun a drag! Seriously, when you were 18 did you ever think you’d be pathetic enough to have to schedule sex? Ok, just kidding. But, as life’s responsibilities add up, sex often seems to fall by the wayside. It may not be anyone’s fault, it just kind of happens.
So, when I talk about planning sex I’m not talking about blocking off an hour in your Outlook or iPhone. Rather, I’m advising that you seize the opportunity when you see it. Do you have a few minutes you can spare here or there? If you do, make sex it a priority! True, you may both be tired, but by purposefully taking sex off the back burner whenever you possibly can, you’ll heat your marriage up. It’s also one of the more fun successful marriage tips in this list.Keep it spicy and very interesting always...............
How to Win a Woman Back Without Looking Like a Fool!!!!
After breakup, many guys will find themselves asking “what in the world can I do to win a woman back?”
They may start reminiscing on all the wrong they did, and finding themselves wishing they could go back in time somehow. Oh, if only things were that easy. Often times, guys will result desperate acts out of a need to numb the pain they are feeling.
There are some solid strategies to win a woman back though, and that’s what I discuss here today.
The first thing you need to do is find an outlet for all this negative energy. If you’re trying to figure out everything and analyze it to death right after breakup, you’re going to be wasting a lot of your time and energy.
So, find something else to put your focus on for a few days or even weeks. Sports, travel, hunting, hanging out with the guys, long-lost hobbies, and many other things can be a great replacement for all those negative feelings.
Once you have a little bit better handle on your emotions, you can pursue your strategy of how to win a woman back. The ironic thing is, by moving away from your ex. You actually set yourself up to be in a position to win her back. This time of self-improvement will give you a great opportunity to reflect on yourself and ultimately become a better person.
This may not be easy at first, but it is an absolutely an essential step. However, once you’ve gotten the necessary perspective that time apart gives you, you’ll be ready to swoop in and win her back.
Now is the time when you can be direct when it comes to getting your ex back. While you still may feel emotionally needy, do not let her see this. You might even play hard to get just a little bit, but don’t overdo it. When a woman sees confidence in the man, it’s very attractive. The secret here is the you don’t actually have to feel confident on the inside, you just have to act that way. You could even go so far as to pretend you were acting in a movie, taking on the role of a very confident lead man. Now, don’t get all theatrical and over do it, this looks stupid. Just remember the have a lot more control over your appearance and confidence than you may think. Act as if you feel bold and others will perceive you that way.
Playing it cool, confident, and a little bit hard to get will test you as a man, but these are the traits you must project. Really try not to over think things, and enjoy yourself! Acting this way will really inspire her to think things through and consider the possibility of getting back together with you.
If you two really are meant to be together, now is the time that will start to become clear to you both. Try not to over analyze things and just go with the flow. If this relationship really is meant to be, things will work out fine.
Alright, don’t just let these by words on a page, man! Get out there and win a woman back, Jack!
Did you just lose your girlfriend or wife? Maybe you’re wondering how to win her back? You’ve come to the right place. Take heart, you can win her back, and in this article we’re going to show you how in just three easy steps.
You may have heard that “nice guys finish last,” and “women are attracted to jerks.” While it’s tempting to believe it, this just isn’t true. What women really want is a guy that is confident.
While this may come off as cocky to some people, underneath it all is really to someone who is showing their confidence in an outward manner. Energy and enthusiasm can be a very good way to display confidence without being arrogant.
I’ll level with you here. Nine times out of 10 there’s no good reason why you can’t get your ex back after a break up. You just have to know a few simple steps in the first one is to determine exactly why you two broke up the first place. Look, you can’t change the past but you sure can learn from your experience and move on. You’ll be a better person for it.
Determine the Cause -The break up or it may have occurred for a variety of reasons: it could’ve been one single tragic event or to have been some behavior that built up over the period of weeks or months. Your job is to find out exactly what caused the break up and make sure that it’s eliminated from this point forward. This sounds easier than it is, but if you can really isolate the problem, and you can begin to address it.
The whole reason you want to get her back is to develop some sort of long-term relationship. If this was just a one night stand you wouldn’t care so much and wouldn’t put in so much effort. make certain that all your effort is not wasted, by planning the next couple of moves you will be much happier in the long run.
Step 2 – Don’t be Needy – You can be nerdy all you want, but you cannot come off as a needy guy here. Remember that confident stuff we talked about before? Well, this is where you need to implement it. Even though you feel like you’re dying inside and you’d do anything in the world to get her back, you can’t wear that emotion on your sleeve! We humans, guys and girls, have this natural tendency to avoid people that are under confident and needy.
If you can portray confidence, you’ve just about won the battle.
Step 3 – Don’t Be Tempted to Use Childish Tactics — I know you’re hurting, and your natural inclination is to do something stupid and hurtful to your ex. Acknowledge this feeling, and then make sure you ignore it. You’re only going to do damage by stooping to a low-level childish acts to hurt your ex. You may actually inspire your ex to completely get rid of you forever by using these tactics, so promise yourself that you won’t and move ahead with confidence.
These three steps will really help your covers your goal. Of course, there are lots of other things you can do, but you will really be surprised at how well these tactics work if you truly take the time to implement them.
If you really pay attention to these three tactics and implement them in your love life, then your question of how to win her back will have a much better answer than before.
Definetely food for thought and food for mental and spiritual intake, remember to always keep "GOD" first and foremost!!!!!!!!!!(THA CHILL ONE)