There’s a cycle of conflict in relationships that causes emotional pain. In some relationships conflict actually becomes addictive. Have you ever had the experience of returning home at the end of the day full of joy and enthusiasm and wanting to share that with your partner, and yet you’re greeted with a very different energy? You try reaching out but your efforts are rejected and you can sense confrontation in the air. Joy fades and you feel enveloped by his withdrawn and uncommunicative presence. You might even have feelings of guilt that you were somehow the cause of his negative state. Weak and helpless to do anything to change the situation, you feel confused and disappointed.

The question is: how do you protect yourself from being affected by your partner’s sometimes gloomy, withdrawn energy? Consider this: can you see it for what it is – a temporary virus that has invaded his personality software – and walk away from it without taking it on and shutting down your own joy and enthusiasm? Can you stay connected to your center and your joy without rejecting your partner when you think he has rained on your parade? Can you give him the space to have his mood of the moment, stay grounded in your own center and still stay open to him in a way that he can feel you’re not rejecting him; you’re just not giving juice to whatever is creating his temporary shut down? Reacting in an emotional or confrontational way never works to sooth our own insecurity, and if the right button is pushed it’s so easy to forget ourselves and make the situation worse.

As humans we’re vulnerable beings and easily affected by the emotional landscape of others. How we handle our partner’s changing moods can be one of relationship’s biggest life lessons. The next time you find yourself in a similar situation-stop! Take a breath, and consider your response. Do you want to stay with your own feelings or react by contributing to a potentially volatile situation? Has reacting ever worked in the past? It takes practice to change habitual response patterns but the effort is worth the reward
The Bible says, “Guard your heart with all wisdom, for it is the wellspring of life” (Proverbs). The Word of God is full of deep and wonderful truth. Many Christian advise us to “guard our hearts” in friendships. It is indeed wise to guard both our emotions and our expectations. We must be wise, and not needlessly expose ourselves to hurt or disappointment.
It can take time to know healing from our hurts and disappointments, and with this to trust God and truly place him as our security. Disappointment is a nasty enemy. We may hope for just simple, basic things in life. Maybe good friends, or a partner to share our live with. But our track record registers disappointment. However, we need not loose hope when we know God. We may not get all we want or hope for, and this is hard to accept when other people seem happy and are enjoying themselves.

With God, all good things are possible. If it is confidence you need, he can bring it, and if it is a miracle you need, he can answer your prayer. Don’t give up or loose hope, and do gain encouragement and help form where ever you can. If there is some sort of a spiritual curse over your life, which stifles you living in freedom and enjoying good things, then he can break it by his power (Colossians 2:13-15)

Healing really can take time. However, we find moments of relief and hope, and quickly learn to take every bit of encouragement that we can get. There is so much hope and encouragement in the Word of God. Don’t ever loose hope when you know God, as he can restore and heal, and he will never leave you. If you do miss out in life, and do not get all that you hope for on earth, he will make things up to you in Heaven. Provision and healing will be made complete. God is perfect, and he will richly reward us if we are faithful, he will not deprive us of good things.

We are all on our way home to Heaven, and on the journey we can know the healing and power of Jesus in our lives. We can know comfort, peace and provision, as well as the privilege of serving others and sharing God with those who do not know him. Hold on, and hold fast to God’s hand. He will never let go. In a field of wounded soldiers, try to get up off your feet and help those who are in need around you. Follow the example of Jesus and Muhammad.Psalm 23

1The Lord is my shepherd, I shall not be in want.

2He makes me lie down in green pastures, he leads me beside quiet waters, 3he restores my soul.

He guides me in paths of righteousness for his name’s sake.

4Even though I walk through the deepest darkness, I will fear no evil, for you are with me; your rod and your staff, they comfort me.

5You prepare a table before me, in the presence of my enemies.

You anoint my head with oil; my cup overflows.

6Surely goodness and love will follow me all the days of my life, and I will dwell in the house of the Lord forever.

In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Merciful
Say: I seek refuge with the Lord and Cherisher of Mankind,
The King (or Ruler) of Mankind,
The god (or judge) of Mankind,-
From the mischief of the Whisperer (of Evil), who withdraws (after his whisper).
(The same) who whispers into the hearts of Mankind,-
Among Jinns and among men.
In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Merciful.
Say: He is Allah, the One and Only;
Allah, the Eternal, Absolute;
He begetteth not, nor is He begotten;
And there is none like unto Him.


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